Step out of your comfort zone one toe at a time

Do you ever feel like you’re on the edge of a cliff? Sometimes it is the trials of life that bring us to the final crossroads. Other times, it’s a decision imposed by a loved one that pushes us into a rut. One thing’s for sure, when we feel like we’re losing our patience, the thought of opening our parachute comes second only to the fear of a tomato crashing in… ouch!

In a more or less dramatic, more or less voluntary way, getting out of our comfort zone can make us experience many emotions. Plunging into the unknown, the threat of looking ridiculous, not knowing anyone, losing our money, not being where we are, making a mistake, feeling unwell and passing out freezes us in place. There’s nothing you can do rather than put yourself in an uncomfortable situation. In fact, why, you say, do we willingly leave our comfort zone when we feel good there? Why put yourself at risk, even if calculated, when you are in control? Why? Because we seriously limit the development of all our potential. Because in this way we deprive ourselves of experiencing successes, discovering our strengths, and facing our fears and moving forward.

The comfort zone can be depicted by a bubble that envelops us. It protects us, but it can also restrict us from facing great opportunities.

Everyone’s bubble is different, flexible to change or rigid to disruptions. It is a unique time to adopt new things. Its size and thickness vary depending on the individual’s experience, their environment, and the context of the situation. The parameters of our comfort zone are defined based on our known strengths, skills and resources. The beginning of our restlessness allows us to see our difficulties, our fears, and our blockages. And we remember that when we experience a difficult event, we are pushed out of our comfort zone, and the last thing we want is to do something different. We want a good comfort food more than a gastronomic adventure.

In meetings with farmers, I often broach this topic with the aim of normalizing the complexity of making changes to one’s life when one feels out of balance. For example, these can be professional and personal situations, such as developing our communication skills with a co-owner or setting our boundaries regarding a loved one’s expectations from us. Whatever the situation, fear prevents us from moving forward with courage in both hands. Instead of seeing the range of possibilities available to us, the abyss of insecurity lies before our eyes. However, we have two options:

1. To procrastinate, to abandon, to avoid, to accept grudgingly, to give preference to the status quo, to make oneself suffer, etc.;

2. Recognize that we are going out of our comfort zone, respect our own pace by taking the smallest steps possible for us, agree to do things differently for a different outcome, be kind to ourselves, etc. .

We can also imagine the comfort zone as a circle around you. For some people, the circle is too big, it takes a lot to unsettle them. For others, the scope is too small and they quickly find themselves out of their comfort zone. The line of the circle represents the boundary between what is comfortable, safe and comfortable, and its opposite, outside the circle. If we jump in with both feet out of our zone, it is quite normal to be unsteady and have only one desire, which is to put our old slippers back on. We can ensure our success by moving forward one step at a time. Then this will be our first small step towards change, and our boundaries tomorrow will not be the same as today. If you need help expanding your reach, contact us.

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